It’s fairly normal for a couple to have differing opinions on what is better for their child when it comes to divorce. Perhaps one parent believes he or she would do better with him and the other thinks the child would do better with her.
The truth is that these disputes can drag out, but it’s important to nip them in the bud as soon as possible. One possible way to resolve child custody concerns is to speak with your child about what his or her wants and needs are. Of course, the amount you discuss with your child will depend on his or her age.
Talking to an older child about child custody
It’s a good idea to talk to your child about child custody before you make any decisions. This can actually help you avoid disputes in the first place. For example, if you believe your child should live with you because you have a larger home but your spouse thinks your child should live with him because he has a home closer to the school, ask your child which he would prefer. Some children would prefer to have a larger room or more space at home, while others may prefer to be close to school and friends.
Talk to your child about visitation time
Another thing that can help you build your parenting plan is talking to your child about how much time he or she wants to spend with each parent. Talk about each of your professional schedules, and then discuss with your child which days or holidays he or she might want to spend with each parent. For instance, your child might say he or she wants to live with dad during the week because he is home after school when you would not be. Or, your child might state that he or she wants to spend two weeks at one home and two weeks at another to get time with each parent equally. Listening to your child now can help him or her adjust and feel that he or she has more control over the situation.
This is just one way you can address a child custody dispute or differences in opinion. Your attorney can help you draw up a plan that works for everyone’s needs.