As you begin to think about the divorce process and what this can do for your future, it's easy to get ahead of yourself.
Rather than think about the many steps you need to take, you dream of a life in which you are no longer tied down by a bad marriage. While it is important to look toward the future, it's critical that you move forward one step at a time.
The divorce process all starts with expressing your intentions to your spouse. Until you do this, you'll find it impossible to move forward. Here are some tips to take when it comes time to bring this conversation to the forefront:
- Don't blurt it out. It's easy to do this, but it's also a mistake. If you're going to ask for a divorce, set aside time to sit down and talk things over.
- Don't have the conversation in front of other people. This is a private matter and you should treat it as such. You don't want to talk about divorce in front of your children, other family members or friends.
- Prepare for what you want to say. There will be a lot going through your mind as you sit down to ask for a divorce, so you should have an idea of what you are going to say and how you are going to say it. This preparation can go a long way in keeping the conversation on the right track.
- Get to the point. If you have done everything you can to save your marriage, there is no reason to beat around the bush. You need to get to the point about your intentions, explaining why you feel that divorce is the right answer at the present time.
- Stay safe. There are people out there who will become angry and violent when facing a difficult situation. If you feel that your spouse could turn on you after asking for a divorce, you need to have this conversation in a public place or over the phone.
Once you express your intentions and are pushing forward with the divorce process, you can then turn your attention to the little steps you have to take in order to make your way to the end.