You might have a bad impression of divorce. Perhaps you have had friends sobbing on your shoulder, recounting details of how cruel their spouse was in the divorce hearing or how difficult it was to adjust to life alone.
Yet, how is that person now? They are probably better off than when they were unhappily married, even if they do not admit it.
It is easy to overlook the positives of divorce because people tend to talk more about the negatives, as they do for life in general. Yet if your marriage is broken, divorce could be the best decision you ever make.
It offers a way to move on
Try to think of marriage as a stage in life rather than its ultimate goal. Focus on what you can take away to help you with future phases. For instance:
- What have you learned about yourself? You might now know what makes you happy and what does not. When you emerge intact on the other side of divorce, you may realize you have inner resources you did not know about.
- What have you learned about relationships? You might have learned it is best to discuss issues early rather than bottle them up. Or that however great someone seems, no one is pedestal material. You could apply these lessons to all sorts of relationships, not just romantic ones.
The sooner you complete your divorce, the sooner you can appreciate it as a positive step to begin the next exciting stage of your life. Getting help to handle your divorce efficiently will be crucial to getting there sooner.