After a divorce, it’s common to feel a range of emotions, from sadness and anger to relief in some situations. While there may be “bad blood” between you and your ex, you must look beyond your personal feelings and consider what’s best when it comes to your children.
In many situations, agreeing to joint or shared custody benefits the child and the parents as well. Consider some of the benefits of this custody agreement found here.
Shared responsibility
You may have heard the saying about raising children that “it takes a village.” The more people in a child’s life who care for them, the better. You and your ex can share the responsibility of the child’s upbringing, which helps reduce the stress felt by one parent. It also lets the child (or children see) you are willing to work together to do what is best for them.
Increased stability
Agreeing to joint or shared custody usually gives parents “common ground.” This also reduces the likelihood of conflict, which provides more stability for the children involved. If you know you are working with your ex to raise a child, you can make a plan to ensure the child knows what is going on and when. Knowing when they get to see their other parent is invaluable and beneficial for children of all ages.
Is joint or shared custody right for you?
Just because a joint custody arrangement offers several benefits, it doesn’t mean it’s the right option for every situation. It’s up to you to evaluate your child’s needs and the environment they would be in with each parent. With this information, you can decide if this type of parenting arrangement is the right option.