Sharing custody of minor children is the standard outcome in most Maryland divorces. Unless there are unusual family circumstances, dividing parenting time and decision-making authority between the adults is usually what a judge believes is in the best interests of the children.
Parents have to find ways to cooperate with each other when they share parenting time and decision-making authority. Educational matters can very easily strain a co-parenting relationship. The following concerns related to the education of shared children commonly lead to disputes and potentially requests for custody modification.
Choosing the school the children attend
According to in-state data, roughly two-thirds of Maryland children attend public schools. Their enrollment primarily depends on their primary residence. Parents may need to talk at length about which parent assumes more parenting time or uses their address as the children’s legal address. Where the children live may ultimately determine where they attend school. Parents may also have the option of selecting a different educational institution during open enrollment times or moving their children to private schools.
Setting standards for the children
Some children have a strong sense of internal motivation. They feel compelled to do their best at school and in other activities. Many others rely on guidance and encouragement from their parents to perform to the best of their abilities. Parents may disagree about what their children need to do at school. One parent may have very strict standards for the children, while the other may be far more lenient. The adults may find themselves fighting over academic expectations and how the children do in school. The sooner they set a shared standard for academic performance, the better their chances of avoiding unnecessary conflict.
Pursuing social and extracurricular activities
School is important not just because of instruction but also because of social opportunities. Children learn how to interact with their peers and maintain healthy relationships by getting to know other students at school. Parents can encourage certain types of socialization while limiting other activities. They can also make decisions regarding extracurricular activities including sports. Parents who agree about what activities their children can engage in and what rules apply to their social endeavors are less likely to fight with each other or to experience their children attempting to manipulate them to get what they want.
Establishing thorough parenting plans that address school matters can help parents more effectively share custody. Should a modification become necessary, seeking personalized legal guidance is a good way to get started.