If you ask anyone in Maryland what they expect to happen after saying “I do,” most people will not say that they expect to get a divorce. Despite the recent statistics suggesting that up to 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, many people in the state have an optimistic disposition about marriage and think that they will be the couple that overcomes the odds.
But despite their best intentions, many relationships do end and when this is the case, divorce is usually the only way to have a truly happy ending. Everyone’s familiar with the saying: when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. But what if your marriage turns to lemons? How do you then make lemonade?
According to many experts, keeping the lines of communication as open as possible is one of the most important things for couples to keep in mind when entering into this potentially difficult part of their relationship. By expressing your expectations and concerns you eliminate the age-old ‘I can’t read your mind’ argument while side stepping the stressful resentment that can often occur when the lines of communication breakdown.
When it comes to especially volatile breakups, as difficult as it may seem, keeping the other person’s feelings in mind could save a lot of stress down the road. When both people in a marriage are hurting, they tend to take these emotions out on the other person. Although a couple may not prevent a divorce from occurring, by not playing the blame game, couples can sometimes turn costly legal battles into friendlier mediation sessions.
Though these are only two suggestions, they both boil down to communication. Without this, relationships already on the edge of a messy divorce can often times end even more badly, leaving both sides worse for wear. As some experts have pointed out, open communication and taking your partner’s feelings into consideration can not only prevent you from becoming a statistic or may even help a divorce end amicably as well.
Source: The Huffington Post, “What I Know About Marriage Now That I’ve Done It Twice,” Meg Buck, March 27, 2013